The idea of having the “perfect” body has become the standard for what modern women are expected to look like and frankly, it’s a load of baloney. It’s no surprise that eating disorders and body dissatisfaction continue to rise worldwide. Somewhere along the way, we allowed society to define beauty for us.
While I believe women have a responsibility to shape how they see themselves, insecurities can still creep in, especially during moments of intimacy. That inner critic has a way of showing up at the worst possible time.
What many women don’t realize is that most men (at least the non-shallow ones) are far more drawn to confidence than physical perfection. When a woman is preoccupied with her appearance, it often creates distance during intimacy rather than connection and that can be a major turn-off. Men are much more likely to overlook minor imperfections when a woman accepts herself as she is.
Ironically, women who are considered conventionally attractive often struggle the most. Being constantly admired can lead to intense self-criticism and hyper-awareness. There’s nothing more distracting for a partner than someone trying to “look pretty” instead of being present and enjoying the moment.
On the other hand, many women with fuller figures tend to exude confidence because they’ve learned to accept themselves. Not all men are attracted to the same type and that’s the point. When a man chooses you, it’s because you are his type. A little softness or an imperfect curve won’t matter nearly as much as your ability to relax, connect, and enjoy yourself.
In the end, confidence, not perfection, is what creates real intimacy.
Having the perfect body has become the staple of what modern women should look like these days. What a load of boloney! No wonder the number of women with eating disorders is on the rise. We’ve allowed society to dictate what true beauty is. Although I believe women should take responsibilities for how they view themselves; as women, insecurities always tend to creep in, especially during intimacy. I guess women don’t realize that most men (the non-shallow ones at least) don’t really care about what they look like as much as they do the confidence they project. Women who worry about their appearance usually don’t reach the level of intimacy a man desires them to attain. This is a major turn-off! Men are more likely to ignore imperfections as long as women accept themselves as they are. Ironically, very attractive women seem to struggle with this issue the most. They often get so caught up in themselves, they become extremely critical and self-conscious. Nothing is worst for a man than to have a woman trying to look pretty during sex! On the other hand, bigger girls seem to be far more confident because they’ve learned to accept themselves as they are. Not all men go for all types of women. When I man goes for you, it’s because you’re his type. A little flabbiness or minor imperfection is not going to matter as long as you enjoy the act without it being a performance.